Completely agree with the sentiment of this post, loneliness is on the rise, especially for younger people. Current demographics are fucked, and low birth rates do have a negative impact on young people, and will continue to do so in the coming years, as our population gradually becomes older.
Making genuine friends after university is really difficult. I would say find a social hobby or something you can do in a group. I finished uni almost four years now, and I would say ive only made two genuine friends since then, both through taking part in sports.
I agree with Tacky, online dating sucks and has made finding a meaningful relationship even more difficult for younger people especially imo, and especially for young men. The number of men under 30 being single is double what it is for women in that same age bracket (https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-state-of-our-unions/202302/why-are-so-many-young-men-single-and-sexless
). Literally none of my friends (including me :/ ) are in committed relationships.
I think the most important part when it comes to friends, is to have close friends. Then have different groups (i.e. work 'friends' and hobby 'friends'). I say 'friends' because you only really hang out with them because you share an environment, theyre not really close friends, you dont hang out outside of the environments you share.
I dont think making many friends is the goal. But having many people to hang out with is definitely helpful. The more exposure you have to different groups.
Lastly, i wouldnt say you should "try" to make friends. Friendships, like relationships, should come about organically. The first friend i genuinely made outside of university i met him through netball. He asked the group if anybody wanted to grab a drink after netball (we were 14), and i was the only one that said yes. I ended up chatting with him for hours, and weve been hanging out regularly ever since. Im going on a two day conference with him in October. Dont go looking for something, live your life proactively and let shit happen to you imo.
EDIT: When i say "we were 14" i mean that there were 14 of us in the group, not that we were 14 years old
Edited 10/18/2023 08:08:29