I honestly think the meanest thing I've ever said was telling l4v.r0v that I think California is hilarious last week. And I even felt bad after saying that.
Don't apologize or feel bad about that. It wasn't disrespectful or an insult, just harmless opinion at worst. Voicing a not-wholly-positive opinion about something is not the same as being mean.
If you broaden the definition of meanness and toxicity to such an extent, then meaningful conversation becomes impossible and
bad faith actors can abuse it to crack down on discussion they don't want to happen.
Edited 1/16/2022 01:20:07