[FCC] Aura Guardian
Although I have been very active on the forums, one place which I have not been very active is the off-topic forums. However, of course, like any human being, I have thoughts which do lie beyond the scope of Warlight. So this thread will be devoted to them. Feel free to comment about my thoughts, as I love an engaging discussion.
So today, I would like to share how I view people, especially when I first encounter them, so that I don't develop an immediate taste, nor distaste of a person. Although they can be easily changed when I get to know someone, I always have a specific set of views and thoughts about any person, as, no matter how different people are, all of them share many similar common traits. I like to call these set of traits the "rational person". Now, I know that many of you may get critical by this, for me saying that I "judge" a person before I even meet them, but this is far from the truth. Rather, the "Rational Person" should be better viewed as a set of questions, to help more easily define people as I get to know them better.
The first, and most important, piece of the rational person is something that is quite obvious: every person has a set of strengths and a set of weaknesses, a set of virtues and a set of flaws. What they are, is not apparent at first, however, there is not a person who lacks any of these. Some people are adept at expressing their strengths, whereas others struggle to cover up their flaws, however, in the end we all have them. Being aware of this helps me to realize that some people's flaws, when they express them when I first meet them, may not be helped, and be painfully visible. This helps me to prevent getting an immediate negative first impression of a person which might be otherwise undeserved, especially after their strengths are expressed. For example, a common flaw that I see among people is that they have an inability to express their ideas. For many people, this comes off as "incompetent" or "not bright", even if that may not be the case at all. Sure, what they seem to express visibly might be true, but it is always worth it to dig deeper to find true understanding in the situation.
Another piece of the rational person is a bit more specific. Every person, no matter how much they might refuse to admit it, has a tendency to argue, especially about something they feel strongly about. Once again, when you first meet someone, this is not clear what exactly this is for that specific person. What someone feels strongly about to one person might mean nothing to another. This in itself can be a source of argument. If someone, with some argument they deeply care for, runs into another person who does not, it can be extremely upsetting for the person who does care. Thus, when talking to someone, I maintain interest in what they feel to be passionate, even if I am not that interested, so that they do not get upset. Then, of course, there is the contrasting viewpoint, a greater source of argument than the lack of interest. People tend to get into dogfights when their viewpoints contradict. It happens all the time in politics (and elsewhere). In these cases, it is best to be able to have strong composition skills, for both sides, so that a point can be made without being too upsetting for the other side of the argument. If both sides can do this, what happens is debate: an intellectual argument in which both sides do not feel threatened by the other. This is the best kind of argument, and that is something that all should strive for, no matter what. The key is keeping a level head, and not falling to your emotions. If you can do this, then an argument can be constructive, resulting in a better understanding and respect for both parties involved, rather than destructive, which can result in one or both sides being seriously offended.
The final piece of the rational person I would like to discuss is that people, for the most part, have generally a favorable personality, and are easy to get along with. We all have our differences, but since most people realize that we do, we can accept then and get along with just about anyone we encounter. Thus, when I first meet a person, I assume I will get along with them. Now this may seem obvious to many of you, but there many people out there with the "prove you can get along with me" mentality. These people, whether aware of it or not, tend to think that their way is the right way and only way. Some people are much more subtle about it than others, but, alas, there are many people who have this unfortunate trait. Luckily, I don't initially assume this about people, and luckily, I do believe that any person can have their own views, as long as it is not something like removal of basic human rights, or other views that can be detrimental to humanity as a whole.
In any case, what are your thoughts on this? Agree, Disagree? Different ideas? Views? Mindsets? Additions or Removals? Own thoughts on the idea of the "Rational Person"? Discuss below.
Edited 1/26/2016 02:50:33