@riskboy why can't it be both? 😉 That's my aim.
@Chris, the reason I "bashed out" (which I didn't mean to be rude, I was more just exasperated) was because I had literally put a disclaimer in my original post with the aim of forestalling such comments, because I have actually heard them all before (because I've done this before. 😉)
So I wasn't really interested in advice, just offers.
But perhaps I should have been more polite in expressing that, sorry folks.

ok but can i is join

In that case i have to decline your offer, sorry.